I had a lot of adjustments for the past few weeks. I remember the day after the wedding when I had to go back home to pack my stuff. It was the most difficult thing for me to do that day. After all the happiness that I felt on my wedding day, I felt my world crumbling down. My old world, that is. I cried myself to sleep for almost an hour in my room. I terribly missed my family at that moment. I asked God why I needed to "separate". It even came to a point wherein I wanted to investigate what Genesis 2:24 meant:
"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." NIVI thought to myself, it says that only the man will leave his father and mother. So maybe it meant that the man can join in the woman's family. I was reasoning myself out of my situation. But that is not God's will.
During our first week together, I was so thankful to God for Brian. There were days when I would just feel so sad that I would suddenly cry because I miss my family. He was there to comfort me and assure me of our life together. Things got smoother and much more bearable after that. I guess that's how marriage works - when one is weak, the other half pulls him/her up.
I also experienced a lot of adjustments. Especially when Brian and I returned to work. I had to wake up early to prepare our breakfast and lunch, just like what my mom used to do for me and my sister when I was still single. Now that I'm the one doing it, I realized how much effort and love my mom pours out to us. I also realized how important it is to show appreciation. It can go a long way in inspiring a person to do something for another.
So what's life like for me now that I'm married? It's both sweet and bitter. Just like wine. And just like wine, it gets better through the years.
