Have You Been a Guest-zilla?

I just read the Rebellious Bride's recent blog post about an Ugly Truth about weddings. And it inspired me to write this...

A few years back, I was asked by a friend to be one of her secondary sponsors in her wedding. I was thrilled because it was going to be my first time. I went through the whole process with glee - going to the mananahi to get our measurements for the dress, going for fittings, and rehearsing for the wedding. It was such an exciting experience for me. And when the wedding day came, while we were preparing at home and doing my makeup, my mom told me this, "don't be too pretty! It's Ate Van's day today. She should be the most beautiful woman". Since then, I've kept that thought with me every time I attend weddings. It's not an excuse to under-dress. But it's a mental note not to overdo it because the fact still remains that it's the BRIDE and GROOM's day and not anyone else's. And for the ladies out there who want to hoard the spotlight away from the bride...that's just mean. It's okay to be beautiful and glamorous and all that...but HEY! It's the BRIDE's day...not yours.

But that's just the scratching the surface of the UGLY TRUTH. Brides and grooms have a lot to go through in a wedding. They're excited, nervous and happy at the same time. With lots of things to think about, it is sometimes understandable that they can become monsters on their big day. BUT...when it's the wedding guests who turn into monsters, that's a different story. A wedding is about the bride and the groom. People who attend weddings should understand that.They shouldn't be too demanding or uncaring.


I've had my own little guest-zilla moments in my own wedding. And thank God, I didn't freak out. I kept my calm and smiled at everyone despite the fact that a lot of things didn't really go the way Brian and I wanted them to be. But that doesn't mean that we didn't enjoy our wedding. We really did and that is because we've got our family and some friends who understand what a wedding should really be. And here's one thing that I learned from our experience - and that is weddings are supposed to be the happiest day for a couple and guests (which includes family and friends!) should understand that and give that to them.

Alright. Thank God I got that one out :p